Comments on: Take a Beating and Like It:Accepting Criticism Gracefully

By: Michele

Michele — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 19:43:04 +0000

I agree we do need to learn from our mistakes. So many people feel that they’re right all the time and those are the type of people nobody likes to be around. Life itself is a learning process and I think we can all glean from one another’s wisdom. Everyone is different and we each know a little more, or less, than some others.

So far, I haven’t had any really ugly comments on my blog (and I’m so thankful for that!). I’m not a cruel person, but prefer a pleasant atmosphere. The few times I’ve received criticism from editors or my blog readers, their words have been constructive, gentle, and have taught me a great deal. I’ve become a better writer/blogger because of their suggestions. I know I’m not the best, but I’m learning and growing and gleaning all along the way. :-)

And…. thanks for your nice comment on my site, Jaden, I appreciate it!

Smiles,
Michele

By: Jaden

Jaden — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 16:27:26 +0000

to MELISSA: Great points. Thanks for adding them.

to JED: Yeah, I got that hit of viagra ads too. Annoying.

By: Melissa Donovan

Melissa Donovan — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 08:14:30 +0000

Well criticism sure can be hard to swallow, and some never recover from it at all. Many a Hollywood star has fallen under the harsh scrutiny of criticism.

But I find that there’s a whole lot to gain by accepting people’s feedback, and appreciating the fact that they’ve taken the time to give it to you, as long as they’re not the paparazzi.

I do think that creative people need to develop a discerning mind though, because there are those negative energy types out there who will shoot down anything. And, sometimes a critique is a matter of opinion.

Art films are a great example. A lover of Hollywood blockbusters might shoot those films down as being too far out or experimental, but there’s a niche that will love them!

So I say take it all but consider the source! Great food for thought here. I recently wrote a couple of posts about giving and receiving criticism, but didn’t touch on dealing with aftermath, which you’ve done nicely here Lady J.

By: Jed

Jed — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 07:53:53 +0000

Great article! I started out with my commenting system under moderation, but I wanted people to react and have their comments posted in real-time, as you do here. I think if we wanted to get people’s reactions, we should be prepared to see both positive and negative comments, while I would still frown upon seeing insulting remarks, I would still allow it, the only exception is when someone posted something about viagra and the link to the site…

By: Jaden

Jaden — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 19:46:15 +0000

to JAMES: *Laughing*

to TEE: Personally, I am for humor. Life is painfully hard without a sense of humor. Happiness requires it. I’d rather not have the sticks-in-the-mud as my regular visitors anyway. I’d rather have visitors with a sense of humor. It is YOUR site and you are trying to do a good thing and spread important helpful information in a positive fun way. For your own happiness, you need to be true to yourself and use your own voice to be successful. We can save our stuffiness for our office jobs. If you have a good sense of humor — let it shine! Don’t let anyone kick it out of you. I have one of the illnesses on your site and it has caused me excruciating pain throughout my life, if you could bring levity to it or make some jokes — I’m all for it.